Being a Good and Coveted Person by Islam

Being a Good and Coveted Person by Islam

A good and coveted person is everyone's dream, yes ... especially being a good person in front of our loved ones for example, it would be even more fun if we are coveted by our loved ones. To achieve that, we must change our ways of behaving and in thinking. Because it is all the key to everything. Then how is it to start?

All you need to do it all is a strong belief because there are still many people thinking "For what do we do good to others, if the person does the opposite of it to us", if you have such thoughts as well as you have to throw them away -far. Because such thoughts will only make yourself more hated by others. If you really want to be a good person and coveted by others, here are some points you can apply:

What You Need To Do

1. Cheap Smile

Rasulullah SAW recommend to smile to anyone, especially fellow Muslims yes, because the smile gives its own impression on others, others will feel happy when you look at it with a smile. But it's different if you look at it with an uncomfortable stare, in accordance with his said:

"Your smile in front of your brother is shadaqah" (HR Tirmidhi).

If you are a less smiling person, start now try to smile to anyone. Because "your smile in front of your brother is shadaqah" . So shadaqah not in the must with money only, but your smile man in front of your brother also shadaqah.

2. Do not be ashamed to say hello

Greeting is one way to keep us familiar with people we know, and bring us closer to others. Because by greeting others, the person will feel in the attention and certainly feel appreciated existence. For that give a greeting to the people around you like your relatives, friends and neighbors. Of greeting someone else, your relationship with the person will be more tightly, besides that person will be happy if you greet him. In accordance with the hadith of the prophet that reads:

"Spread the greetings among you" (Muslim)

From now on for those of you who are still embarrassed to greet other people around you, stop thinking like so, because it will only keep you from the people around you. Life will be more fun if other people do good with you is not it? then start doing good with others starting with greeting them.

3. Not Arrogant and Stay Humble.

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Before I discuss the first point, maybe you should understand the intent of the picture above. Why am I presenting a picture of rice? why not just another picture? The image of rice I was served in this article because the rice is increasingly contain, the more down (the more yellowing the lower bow) then what I mean that, so from the rice plants we can learn that people who are more knowledgeable and knowledgeable it is desirable to lower them, because humbling or bowing shows humility to the creator because of all that we have today, it is just a deposit from HIS there is no point to boast with what we have because at any time whatever we have will be asked for its accountability on the Day of Resurrection

"Pride is to deny the truth and humiliate man". [HR. Muslim, no. 2749, from 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud].

"Three destructive things: the attentive nature of sukh (greed and hunks), the lust followed, and the 'ujub (pride) of a person against him'. [Genealogy of Shahihah, no. 1802]

Humility or Humility also has other intentions of not showing off or rhyme with what we have today, but using whatever we have today (eg science and knowledge) to use as well as possible, because the best of men is their which is beneficial to others. So we as human as well as His Servant no use to pride because Allah hates the arrogant.

4. Positive Thinking.

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Positive thinking is one of the important points, with the habitual we think positive then we will see all events, all things, in a positive form. That way we can take the positive side of everything around us.

"I am according to the prejudice of my servant to Me and I am with him when he pleads to me" (HR.Muslim).

"You may hate something, but he is very good to you, and may (you) like something, but he is very bad for you; Allah knows, and ye know not. "(Al-Baqarah: 216)

The same thing when we want to do something before we piki we can not do it eg:

• I'm not good at maths I'm not good at math
• I can not be I want to try

From some of the above examples, we as human beings must continue to think positively because like the hadith I have attached to above, "I am according to my servant's prejudice to Me and I am with him when he pleads to me" so if you think something positive and accompanied by prayer of course, then it is not impossible. But if you meet a failure, maybe it is all in accordance with that already listed in Al-Baqarah: 216, then what is the relationship with the title of this article? Positive thinking aims to be a person who brings positive energy so others will like you and will always be coveted because you bring positive things to others. How is it, if someone else is in trouble you can have a positive influence like helping him, or giving him advice or the like. On the other hand, with positive thinking you will be viewed positively also by others, so think positive is.

5. Honest.

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Maybe some of the readers are not alien to the picture above, yep! the image above is the slogan of the KPK(The one of Indonesian goverment's organisation). Honest acts are sometimes bitter, but with the usual we say honestly then we will get 3 things namely: Trust, Love, and Respect. That is why honest people are so easily accepted by others and also very coveted by others. Like what has been said by Sayidina Ali.

"Honest people get three things: trust, love, and respect" (Sayidina Ali)

Many people think honestly only harms themselves but the fact that honest people are much loved by others. On the other hand, a dishonest person will live filled with burdens, because he must try to make a lie to cover up the lies he has made himself. The more he says lies the more lies to be covered, that is why people who live filled with lies will not be able to live in peace. So tell the truth even though it is bitter and detrimental to you, but from the bitterness and loss you receive from telling the truth it is only temporary even very briefly, than if you lie, then the lie is covered with lies and then the lie is covered with lies new so also so on. So do not you honestly think it can hurt you, it is a big mistake, if you are harmed from the honesty you make once again, it is only temporary.

Whether you prefer Honest to your own disadvantage, but it is only temporary or, lie and from that lie you must be clever to cover it for the secrecy of lies you have made before but as long as you lie you are covered by endless anxiety. You better choose which one?

Again, HONEST IT WAS GREAT!

6. Trustworthy.

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Looking for someone who can be trusted is a difficult thing to do in this day and age, because now the belief is almost worthless or worthless. To be a good person and coveted by others, of course by being a trustworthy person is one of the most important points because by believing others with you, then that person definitely likes and even crave your presence. For that to be a trustworthy person, and do not ever damage the beliefs of others because you get the trust of others is very difficult.

What deeds show you to be a trusted person?
Example: Keeping other people's secrets well.
From the above points, many people who have not been able to apply it well. Many people betrayed, after we told a secret to others. In fact, people who keep other people's secrets well, then God will keep your secret well too. For that to be a trustworthy person, with so many people happy with your presence. 

7. Be a Good Listener

In the dialogue there must be a speaker and a listener, both of whom interact with their interlocutor, it is different when you speak but the person you are talking to is not listening to you, how do you feel? I am sure you will feel unappreciated. For that to be a good listener is something that can make others feel happy because the speaker felt himself appreciated by the listener, even the speaker would be more pleased if we give the right advice for him. But what if what he's talking about makes us angry? Perhaps the traditions of this prophet may give some clues:

"If any of you are angry then let him be silent" (HR Imam Ahmad).

"Do not be angry, then for you heaven" (HR.Thranrani).

Yes ... it all goes back to our individual patience, when someone speaks but invites our anger, that is where our patience is tested. But holding back anger is the best choice, because to be a good listener, patience is one of its elements, because without patience we will not be a good listener.

8. Empathize!

What is empathy? based on KBBI(The Great Dictionary of Indonesian Language) empathy is " a mental state that makes a person feel or identify himself in the same state of feeling or mind with another person or group". From this definition the nature of empathy is a trait that must be owned by a good person, of course. By the nature of empathy we can care about what other people currently feel, with empathy we get closer to others, and with this sense of empathy we can feel what others feel.
Providing Solutions is also a good way to show our empathy to others, so you show your concern with people who are experiencing problems.

9. Not Selfish.

What does the picture mean? in the picture there are 2 animals (maybe dog) the second is bound by the rope, so they can not get too far apart. The two animals see the food nearby, which then follows their "ego" nature so that the two are pulling each other in the opposite direction, one going to the food in front of him, and the other one the same. They are confused and one of them there is a reluctant so that they both decide to walk in the same direction and end they can eat the food together. From the above picture I have explained that selfishness will not solve a problem. For that to be a person who likes to give in, and prioritize others so you will be more liked other people even your presence will be coveted by others.

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10. Eye Contact

Eye contact is a marker if the person is concerned and focused with the other person. So eye contact is a way to show if you focus and pay attention to the other person, so that the other person will be happy to talk to you. According to the science of psychology, a person who, when speaking does not make eye contact with the other person, usually the person is hiding something from the other person. So from doing the eye contact with the other person, because it really makes the other person feel appreciated.

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From some points above, I hope that readers can apply it so that you can be a good person and certainly coveted by others.

A few of the articles I have made this, may be useful to readers as well. If in this article there is a mistake, I as the author is happy to accept the suggestion of the reader. That is all and thank you.

-EZ-

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